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General => General Discussion => Topic started by: Forbes1964 on March 06, 2017, 03:33:42 AM
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Good news: I have an 85 year old mother, 3 older brothers, and 3 older sisters who have been with me through my entire ordeal of my accident, amputation, and subsequent recovery. And they love me very much and have become VERY protective of their "baby brother " and his safety.
Bad news: see above [emoji23][emoji23][emoji23]
Every so often to test the waters, I imply that I'm not very fearful of getting on a scooter again, and I see them nearly STOP BREATHING. So I'll just leave it alone for now. Yes, at age 52 I'm very much old enough to make my own decision in this matter. However, I'm also smart and considerate enough to remember the look in my oldest brother's eyes, the fatigue in my middle sister's face, and the sight of my mother preparing and serving 3 meals a day for me. They were the ones who were there daily from day one because they live here.
Therefore, I'll put any plans fir riding again on hold until such a time that the very thought of me riding anything on two wheels other than a BICYCLE no longer causes them to stop breathing. Lol.
But given the situations where I see people who have NO ONE to care about them, I'll choose my situation any day.
Just thinking and sharing. My blessings outweigh my burdens by a WIDE MARGIN!
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You are a very rich man indeed.
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You are a very rich man indeed.
Yes. I truly am. My material wealth may be slim. But I am truly rich in the ways that really count.
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Forbes, you my friend are a bright spot here on this forum. Whenever I log on and see your recent post I go there directly and always feel inspired. We are honored by your presence here. Thank you Forbes for your gifts and blessings.
Dan
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it's too easy for too many people to act selfishly...it takes real maturity to understand how others feel and to act accordingly.
I know it's hard when you really want to do something...but with your big family that cares about their little brother...you're doing the right thing.
No hurry...there will be time to ride again, someday.
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You are truly blessed to have such a wonderful support system. Many many years ago I was in a motorcycle accident and like you my family was there for me. Your decision to ride again won't be without its guilt. I think about my mom whenever I ride and how worried she gets for me. It's what keeps me ultra vigilant while out riding.
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Good man indeed. Now I'll go against the grain here.
I understand your thoughts as after a spinal cord injury those that cared for me had to literally wipe my ass.
It's called "egg shelling" and it's very common. Loved ones in their quest to help a disabled relative, friend etc start to treat them like fine china. Careful he might break. It's well meaning but counterproductive in the long run.
Fact is you are already broken and they are not. Everyday is a risk for the ABs as they have everything to lose. We on the other hand have everything to gain. Once you've been motionless for a while perspective changes.
I'd say if you want to ride explain why to those around you and expect that they will not understand. Pray they are never in the position to understand......
Ive had many well meaning people try to keep me from riding, skiing, skydiving and the like. Fact is my SCI empowered me. That's not saying I wouldn't turn the clock back if I could and be amoung the healthy.
You can't make others happy unless you are happy. I wish you the best.
Roll on brother.
AMAC
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Forbers, it's good that you have family that love you and are concerned for your health and safety. Looking at it from their perspective, you and all of us can understand their concern about you riding again. I'm sure they are also concerned for your happiness as well and if it pleases you to be able to riding again, then they will give you their blessings, be it ever so reluctant. Then it falls on you to be very very careful as you enjoy your rides This situation will be in my prayers. your fellow rider,
Mac
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Forbes, you are a good man and you certainly come from good folks. I know and trust you are doing the right thing. God bless you all and hug Mamma for me! Please stay on the forum. We need your heart here.
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Good man indeed. Now I'll go against the grain here.
I understand your thoughts as after a spinal cord injury those that cared for me had to literally wipe my ass.
It's called "egg shelling" and it's very common. Loved ones in their quest to help a disabled relative, friend etc start to treat them like fine china. Careful he might break. It's well meaning but counterproductive in the long run.
Fact is you are already broken and they are not. Everyday is a risk for the ABs as they have everything to lose. We on the other hand have everything to gain. Once you've been motionless for a while perspective changes.
I'd say if you want to ride explain why to those around you and expect that they will not understand. Pray they are never in the position to understand......
Ive had many well meaning people try to keep me from riding, skiing, skydiving and the like. Fact is my SCI empowered me. That's not saying I wouldn't turn the clock back if I could and be amoung the healthy.
You can't make others happy unless you are happy. I wish you the best.
Roll on brother.
AMAC
I guess I'm choosing my battles and my timing carefully. My family is healing along with me. I use humor when speaking of my injuries and my prosthetic as well as some of my awkward challenges. Very recently. My oldest brother INITIATED a joke concerning my prosthetic. He was very proud of himself. Then he said "see? I'm getting there." I ended up giving HIM an "atta boy " lol.
I think that by the time the urge becomes irresistible, they will have healed to the point where they can accept it.. For the time being, I'm Content to impress them by driving my 5 speed Ford Ranger and by showing them my prowess on my tractor. Lol
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I guess I'm choosing my battles and my timing carefully. My family is healing along with me. I use humor when speaking of my injuries and my prosthetic as well as some of my awkward challenges. Very recently. My oldest brother INITIATED a joke concerning my prosthetic. He was very proud of himself. Then he said "see? I'm getting there." I ended up giving HIM an "atta boy " lol.
I think that by the time the urge becomes irresistible, they will have healed to the point where they can accept it.. For the time being, I'm Content to impress them by driving my 5 speed Ford Ranger and by showing them my prowess on my tractor. Lol
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Humor is big, if you don't laugh you cry.
many a wife of a amp has told me that when hubby pisses them off they'll hide the leg,lol.
This dude has a tat that's one of the best. First time I met the guy a just laughed my butt off.
(http://i70.photobucket.com/albums/i118/segforlegs/IMG_0254.png)
AMAC
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Humor is big, if you don't laugh you cry.
many a wife of a amp has told me that when hubby pisses them off they'll hide the leg,lol.
This dude has a tat that's one of the best. First time I met the guy a just laughed my butt off.
(http://i70.photobucket.com/albums/i118/segforlegs/IMG_0254.png)
AMAC
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Perhaps some ideas that may keep the family breathing: How about a three wheel motor machine? Alternatives range from the Piaggio MP3 of various sizes to Can-Am Spyder to Honda Goldwing or HD trikes. All give the open air feel and wheeling feeling. Another suggestion may be an open four wheeler from a small sporty (Miata) to a Lambourgini (yah on your salary!!!). Some thoughts to keep the mind active.
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Perhaps some ideas that may keep the family breathing: How about a three wheel motor machine? Alternatives range from the Piaggio MP3 of various sizes to Can-Am Spyder to Honda Goldwing or HD trikes. All give the open air feel and wheeling feeling. Another suggestion may be an open four wheeler from a small sporty (Miata) to a Lambourgini (yah on your salary!!!). Some thoughts to keep the mind active.
I really like the can-Am , and would consider it. But I Can-Not Even think of affording one. Lol. I like the "reverse tricycle" because it looks like that in the event of the type of accident I had, the cycle would take the hit before the rider.
I wish a low price, high quality manufacturer would make something like that. It would not have to be nearly as fast as the Can-Am .
(You listening KYMCO?)
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Problem solved Forbes! Heres a good solution; ;D
http://herringfarm.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/01/BlazingSaddles_HD03.png (http://herringfarm.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/01/BlazingSaddles_HD03.png)
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Problem solved Forbes! Heres a good solution; ;D
http://herringfarm.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/01/BlazingSaddles_HD03.png (http://herringfarm.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/01/BlazingSaddles_HD03.png)
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Paul, that just made my day. I'm literally laughing out loud. I'm glad my nephew isn't at home. He'd think I just lost my mind.
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;D ;) ;D
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Problem solved Forbes! Heres a good solution; ;D
http://herringfarm.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/01/BlazingSaddles_HD03.png (http://herringfarm.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/01/BlazingSaddles_HD03.png)
Love it, Mr. Paul - Blazing Saddles is such a classic movie! Good taste!
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Good man indeed. Now I'll go against the grain here.
I understand your thoughts as after a spinal cord injury those that cared for me had to literally wipe my ass.
It's called "egg shelling" and it's very common. Loved ones in their quest to help a disabled relative, friend etc start to treat them like fine china. Careful he might break. It's well meaning but counterproductive in the long run.
Fact is you are already broken and they are not. Everyday is a risk for the ABs as they have everything to lose. We on the other hand have everything to gain. Once you've been motionless for a while perspective changes.
I'd say if you want to ride explain why to those around you and expect that they will not understand. Pray they are never in the position to understand......
Ive had many well meaning people try to keep me from riding, skiing, skydiving and the like. Fact is my SCI empowered me. That's not saying I wouldn't turn the clock back if I could and be amoung the healthy.
You can't make others happy unless you are happy. I wish you the best.
Roll on brother.
AMAC
Amac,
Skydiving cartoon I saw yrs ago:
Angel in Heaven is talking to a skydiver,
"No, see, this is your rip cord. That is just a loose thread."
The Stig would not jump out of a plane unless his hair was on fire, or the plane was...
Mr. Forbes, good subject to pray about. Likely too tough for us.
We learned to think both you guys are pretty special for your insights.
Stig
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Amac,
Skydiving cartoon I saw yrs ago:
Angel in Heaven is talking to a skydiver,
"No, see, this is your rip cord. That is just a loose thread."
The Stig would not jump out of a plane unless his hair was on fire, or the plane was...
Mr. Forbes, good subject to pray about. Likely too tough for us.
We learned to think both you guys are pretty special for your insights.
Stig
One thing I've learned is that in many of life's situations there is often no ONE answer that is correct for a particular situation. In those situations we get advice from other people, pray, and then simply eliminate the WRONG answers.
1. I know that I will NOT simply ignore the feelings of those who love and care about me.
2. I know that I will NOT let others smother me and dictate my decisions and cause me to be miserable.
I figure that there is a LOT of area in between where I can negotiate safely and come up with something where everyone (that counts, meaning me, and close family) can live with and be content.
AMAC has presented some valid points as well as the rest of you. And Stig , I'm with you. Why jump out of a perfectly good airplane! Lol.
Anyway, I guess that's why you all can't get rid of me. You all seem to have GOOD SENSE most of the time. Traits that are increasingly RARE. Even at the highest levels. --- But that's a discussion for a different forum. [emoji2]
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Your philosophical and pragmatic nature is attractive and likeable Forbes. You're a good fit here my friend and we love ya man.